Wednesday, July 26, 2017

"We are all enlisted..." and "Happy Are We!"

We had a lovely and surprising event of sharing our basement with Jake's family. It lasted a while and we enjoyed it immensely. We still miss them and the kids. They helped us, and we helped them, and it was something we never could have pictured enjoying as much as we did.

They were blessed with finding a home up the hill, and we don't have them in our lives nearly often enough now.

Mark and Dana came once from Hawaii, with their 2 week old Ellie (Eleanor Mei). They job hunted and moved on to join Dave and Joel in CA. La Habra was their home until they were enticed back to Utah for a different job. Since then they added Soapie (Sophie Marie) who turned 3 on June 14th. Then in November they added Audrey Royal, named for her birth coinciding with the World Series win of 2015.

Chris moved home in December 2014 and fell in love and married in August vacating the balcony room just in time for Cecily and her new student husband Spencer (Shumway) to take up the room and the social slack. We were so glad they were back for a bit. We never got to Provo enough to see them! Now thanks to a job near the "U" and student teaching in West Jordan we got them here!

We are blessed and thrilled with the comings and goings. We have enough and to spare, and hope to share the blessings when we can. A pit stop-off for family and friends from all over.

Kai and many his family were here over the summer of 2016 dancing Ballet for summer camps. Uncle Bruce and Sara visited, and she even grabbed a couple of nights on a weekend.

Dana and Mark have had their share of sharing as well. With family from Kansas and Hawaii, and Illinois and times full of friends and surprises.  Moving one of these months soon to a place of their own in Herriman, oh how we will miss them.

I love the ability to open our home those those we can aid and it never ceases to bless us.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Let's Give the Girls a Chance

I know I have Grandmothers'. Great ones I love, remember and cherish. Also some I never knew. Because of their effort to leave their life's story, I know they loved me and decades later teach me by example.
They each have 'great' names, some are back in fashion like; Margaret Isabelle and Mary Eliza.
Others haven't made it all the way back yet, such as Lucy Vail and Wilhelmina Lavina. Yet these are the ones that wrote "stuff" and I'm blessed more than I can express by their writing.

Ever since hearing inspiring words from our Stake and General Conferences, and the Spirit, it is the latter two I have on my mind and carry a part of them with me.
We were counseled to "try to navigate around the 'FamilySearch' site", and I did enough to unearth some new family stories for myself, and now to share with our ever increasing collection of granddaughters.

 Previously I have loved them, my ancestors, and the diligence and dedication of these who wrote down their lives.

We have in our possession a few marvelous accounts, one includes traveling on horseback to what is now "Yellowstone National Park". These accounts are written and described by relatives, detailing supplies bought, tours given, and adventuring into undeveloped back-country. We have the records of the beauty, the terrain, even including fish caught, and animals viewed and miles traveled. Trail conditions and weather.

And until I got older not many of these travelogues held my interest, at least not as much as they might. I'll just state they didn't enter my heart like these new ones, these new-found histories and accounts have. As a woman, these had a perspective from which I can relate.

Thanks to FamilySearch, some have been published recently, even some in their own hand writing. And because of these I now know about these young girls, my Grandmothers. Their treks, travails, and trials, their making mad dashes, and even moving away from the "wicked mobs".

Seen from their point of view a part of what they saw and what they did, I give thanks to something as simple as a saved and preserved notebook.

While enjoying details like; what her friends called her and thought of her religion tells me about some of the persecution of her day. Writing what 'characteristics' she wanted in a husband,  (asking the future reader to allow her that "extravagance"), and surmising that someday her children would want to know, 'did she have any beaux?' Her written interests, talents, chores, and clothing details are fascinating!

One's excellent penmanship and use of language, makes it extra fun and caused me to search a dictionary.
Reading with empathy of the death of a 2 year-old brother, described as "the pet"of the family and her explanation of the crude casket made from a hollowed out log her father crafted and carved with a lid. And her describing the final fitting of "the little treasure" in it for the burial/resting place brought tears.

They spoke of finding "love" and their companions, with humor and admiration just as we might.
I've read of a beloved husband 'taking a second wife', written with only a sentence, when I know from family group sheets this was a younger sister. Her brevity here said volumes, but what? How I wish for more...

I've also read on the family search site a few less than accurate random accounts from well meaning 'relatives', who likely haven't read these pages left by the life's author.

For their facts in their own words, I am grateful and moved. Thank you Grandmas Lucy and Wilhelmina!
 So MUCH Speculation, guesstimate, summation, surmising and presumption are removed.

A am lucky enough to have a meaningful metaphor most girls only retain in their memory. This comes from a young girl's diary account of hiding out in Holland, her city Amsterdam and seeing Anne Frank's home on a self-guided tour. My experience in going through it was almost hallowed and sacred, like a 'temple experience'. Feeling such depth of emotion, and then in the final room seeing her aged father, Otto Frank, who survived her, saying poignantly and almost prophetically, he never realized what she was going through or feeling. All this about her, "he too learned too late", from the little red and white journal she kept. She had extracted a promise from him as he locked it up each night for her, he would never read it. Finally, posthumously,  he did read, and later allowed it to be published. His generous sharing has given the world a legacy of the human spirit and insight into some dark days in human history. Her slice of time, though brief, gives volumes of context to the reader.

Similarly my grandmothers journal writings, have caused them to become real for me, and  promise  some suspended anticipation in an inkling of meeting.

They left me and other readers their footprint of living and loving, by them composing a legacy of 'enduring it well'.

Now when I 'make homemade soup' from packages of 'store bought' cut-up frozen vegetables, I  see and remember them lighting fires to cook, and wash, cut, and chop.  And kill and skin.
When my pantry is low, and I need to go shopping I see the days when they had nothing to eat but bread. Working with brothers to clear and hoe and plant... possessing no shoes, let alone work gloves!
Their mother's, often ill or gone, continual care of the family fell to them. They gathered, washed wool, carded and wove what they wore.

They did not have 'confidence' as the world teaches, but in using Faith and Strength their circumstances created opportunities for them to be proved.  They each received abundance from lives filled with very similar trials. And some we also face.

Income, housing, resources, relocation, illness, death, and the ravages of war, along with a host of other challenges did not distract them from their testimony of the Lord and Savior and the blessings of the Restored Gospel.

I will build skills like them; try new and hard things, do that which I find distasteful, pitch in, help out, and be a sister to those in need. I still have a chance, and if they could do it, so can I!

 And looming larger and greater is what I have felt from the significance of leaving written history.  "Let's Hear It for the Girls!" Let's give the girls the chance.... by doing likewise.

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Writing Blesses

Writing Blesses.

Few outlets are as therapeutic as getting life happenings on paper.

Oh that I was a typing wiz...

For years my older sister has filled journals with what life is all about from her perspective.

After reading my relatives written words these have come to be so important to me. I long to do likewise, and be a blessing to my posterity by leaving my life's experience from my female 'voice' and point of view.

Realizing this desire, which is strongly haunting, I am still weak in ways that I wish I were not. These 'other authors' inspire me and echo within their own writings to leave something written, so future generations can 'know from whence they came' and feel some kinship.

My mind is prompted, my spirit driven, and still I shrink, "not knowing beforehand the things that I should do".... and like the predecessor's of Nephi, I am slow of skill and have not the fleet fingers of so many others, but experience the "awkwardness of hands".

I hope to not be mocked and worse.  As Ether states, "wherefore, when we write we behold our weakness, and stumble because of the placing of our words; and I fear lest the gentiles shall mock at our words".

Yes, I live with 'gracious' critics. And I am sadly fragile here. Still I am emboldened by these words, "For the things which some men esteem to be of great worth, both to the body and soul, others set at naught and trample under their feet".

Oh well.
I will write...

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Flyin' High this December

I was astounded, the principle of contrast could not have been more profound if we'd been doing stealth market research. This was our final flight of the week. She didn't need to be so nice, about now I was used the the lack-luster bustle. Yet she was. Her name is Jill.

As an older women traveling with my husband, you feel your importance waning. No long svelt and sparkling, your goal is be efficient and stay under the radar of neediness.
Due to the overhead space and seating choices he and I were separated from the start of a almost five hour flight, the 2nd week in December. Oh well, not uncommon for us.

It was truly her smile and pleasant kindness on the fourth Southwest flight and my experience that so caught my attention.  She promised that after the aircraft stabilized she'd bring me my oversized purse from rows back behind me, where she politely had stored it. And she remembered! So I asked her name.

Please know I'm an average traveler, pleasant enough, but prefer not to be overly communicative. If my seat mate wants to, I'll talk, but I typically let it be their choice, I love the quiet and rest.

Here was Jill again, the countenance delight, repeatedly honoring my requests. My seat mate never spoke more than a few words to her or I, having a spare seat between us. So I took notice of her working from my seat, greeting passengers as if we were all important persons, and I found myself reflecting on the previous 3 experiences this week.

I'm old enough to remember when being a "steward/stewardess" meant something special. Sweet Jill seemed to get that old style service. It was nice, with warmth, and sincere. Her beverage service and 'snack' passing, was more in the "old tradition", and not just a job, and I reminisced on my initial flight over 50 years ago.

Jill even brought that on, calling me "young lady" once,  and causing me to reflect on kinder days when people looked you in the eyes and cared.

Thank you Jill! GREAT JOB! And have a Merry Christmas Southwest!