Wednesday, July 26, 2017

"We are all enlisted..." and "Happy Are We!"

We had a lovely and surprising event of sharing our basement with Jake's family. It lasted a while and we enjoyed it immensely. We still miss them and the kids. They helped us, and we helped them, and it was something we never could have pictured enjoying as much as we did.

They were blessed with finding a home up the hill, and we don't have them in our lives nearly often enough now.

Mark and Dana came once from Hawaii, with their 2 week old Ellie (Eleanor Mei). They job hunted and moved on to join Dave and Joel in CA. La Habra was their home until they were enticed back to Utah for a different job. Since then they added Soapie (Sophie Marie) who turned 3 on June 14th. Then in November they added Audrey Royal, named for her birth coinciding with the World Series win of 2015.

Chris moved home in December 2014 and fell in love and married in August vacating the balcony room just in time for Cecily and her new student husband Spencer (Shumway) to take up the room and the social slack. We were so glad they were back for a bit. We never got to Provo enough to see them! Now thanks to a job near the "U" and student teaching in West Jordan we got them here!

We are blessed and thrilled with the comings and goings. We have enough and to spare, and hope to share the blessings when we can. A pit stop-off for family and friends from all over.

Kai and many his family were here over the summer of 2016 dancing Ballet for summer camps. Uncle Bruce and Sara visited, and she even grabbed a couple of nights on a weekend.

Dana and Mark have had their share of sharing as well. With family from Kansas and Hawaii, and Illinois and times full of friends and surprises.  Moving one of these months soon to a place of their own in Herriman, oh how we will miss them.

I love the ability to open our home those those we can aid and it never ceases to bless us.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Let's Give the Girls a Chance

I know I have Grandmothers'. Great ones I love, remember and cherish. Also some I never knew. Because of their effort to leave their life's story, I know they loved me and decades later teach me by example.
They each have 'great' names, some are back in fashion like; Margaret Isabelle and Mary Eliza.
Others haven't made it all the way back yet, such as Lucy Vail and Wilhelmina Lavina. Yet these are the ones that wrote "stuff" and I'm blessed more than I can express by their writing.

Ever since hearing inspiring words from our Stake and General Conferences, and the Spirit, it is the latter two I have on my mind and carry a part of them with me.
We were counseled to "try to navigate around the 'FamilySearch' site", and I did enough to unearth some new family stories for myself, and now to share with our ever increasing collection of granddaughters.

 Previously I have loved them, my ancestors, and the diligence and dedication of these who wrote down their lives.

We have in our possession a few marvelous accounts, one includes traveling on horseback to what is now "Yellowstone National Park". These accounts are written and described by relatives, detailing supplies bought, tours given, and adventuring into undeveloped back-country. We have the records of the beauty, the terrain, even including fish caught, and animals viewed and miles traveled. Trail conditions and weather.

And until I got older not many of these travelogues held my interest, at least not as much as they might. I'll just state they didn't enter my heart like these new ones, these new-found histories and accounts have. As a woman, these had a perspective from which I can relate.

Thanks to FamilySearch, some have been published recently, even some in their own hand writing. And because of these I now know about these young girls, my Grandmothers. Their treks, travails, and trials, their making mad dashes, and even moving away from the "wicked mobs".

Seen from their point of view a part of what they saw and what they did, I give thanks to something as simple as a saved and preserved notebook.

While enjoying details like; what her friends called her and thought of her religion tells me about some of the persecution of her day. Writing what 'characteristics' she wanted in a husband,  (asking the future reader to allow her that "extravagance"), and surmising that someday her children would want to know, 'did she have any beaux?' Her written interests, talents, chores, and clothing details are fascinating!

One's excellent penmanship and use of language, makes it extra fun and caused me to search a dictionary.
Reading with empathy of the death of a 2 year-old brother, described as "the pet"of the family and her explanation of the crude casket made from a hollowed out log her father crafted and carved with a lid. And her describing the final fitting of "the little treasure" in it for the burial/resting place brought tears.

They spoke of finding "love" and their companions, with humor and admiration just as we might.
I've read of a beloved husband 'taking a second wife', written with only a sentence, when I know from family group sheets this was a younger sister. Her brevity here said volumes, but what? How I wish for more...

I've also read on the family search site a few less than accurate random accounts from well meaning 'relatives', who likely haven't read these pages left by the life's author.

For their facts in their own words, I am grateful and moved. Thank you Grandmas Lucy and Wilhelmina!
 So MUCH Speculation, guesstimate, summation, surmising and presumption are removed.

A am lucky enough to have a meaningful metaphor most girls only retain in their memory. This comes from a young girl's diary account of hiding out in Holland, her city Amsterdam and seeing Anne Frank's home on a self-guided tour. My experience in going through it was almost hallowed and sacred, like a 'temple experience'. Feeling such depth of emotion, and then in the final room seeing her aged father, Otto Frank, who survived her, saying poignantly and almost prophetically, he never realized what she was going through or feeling. All this about her, "he too learned too late", from the little red and white journal she kept. She had extracted a promise from him as he locked it up each night for her, he would never read it. Finally, posthumously,  he did read, and later allowed it to be published. His generous sharing has given the world a legacy of the human spirit and insight into some dark days in human history. Her slice of time, though brief, gives volumes of context to the reader.

Similarly my grandmothers journal writings, have caused them to become real for me, and  promise  some suspended anticipation in an inkling of meeting.

They left me and other readers their footprint of living and loving, by them composing a legacy of 'enduring it well'.

Now when I 'make homemade soup' from packages of 'store bought' cut-up frozen vegetables, I  see and remember them lighting fires to cook, and wash, cut, and chop.  And kill and skin.
When my pantry is low, and I need to go shopping I see the days when they had nothing to eat but bread. Working with brothers to clear and hoe and plant... possessing no shoes, let alone work gloves!
Their mother's, often ill or gone, continual care of the family fell to them. They gathered, washed wool, carded and wove what they wore.

They did not have 'confidence' as the world teaches, but in using Faith and Strength their circumstances created opportunities for them to be proved.  They each received abundance from lives filled with very similar trials. And some we also face.

Income, housing, resources, relocation, illness, death, and the ravages of war, along with a host of other challenges did not distract them from their testimony of the Lord and Savior and the blessings of the Restored Gospel.

I will build skills like them; try new and hard things, do that which I find distasteful, pitch in, help out, and be a sister to those in need. I still have a chance, and if they could do it, so can I!

 And looming larger and greater is what I have felt from the significance of leaving written history.  "Let's Hear It for the Girls!" Let's give the girls the chance.... by doing likewise.

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Writing Blesses

Writing Blesses.

Few outlets are as therapeutic as getting life happenings on paper.

Oh that I was a typing wiz...

For years my older sister has filled journals with what life is all about from her perspective.

After reading my relatives written words these have come to be so important to me. I long to do likewise, and be a blessing to my posterity by leaving my life's experience from my female 'voice' and point of view.

Realizing this desire, which is strongly haunting, I am still weak in ways that I wish I were not. These 'other authors' inspire me and echo within their own writings to leave something written, so future generations can 'know from whence they came' and feel some kinship.

My mind is prompted, my spirit driven, and still I shrink, "not knowing beforehand the things that I should do".... and like the predecessor's of Nephi, I am slow of skill and have not the fleet fingers of so many others, but experience the "awkwardness of hands".

I hope to not be mocked and worse.  As Ether states, "wherefore, when we write we behold our weakness, and stumble because of the placing of our words; and I fear lest the gentiles shall mock at our words".

Yes, I live with 'gracious' critics. And I am sadly fragile here. Still I am emboldened by these words, "For the things which some men esteem to be of great worth, both to the body and soul, others set at naught and trample under their feet".

Oh well.
I will write...

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Flyin' High this December

I was astounded, the principle of contrast could not have been more profound if we'd been doing stealth market research. This was our final flight of the week. She didn't need to be so nice, about now I was used the the lack-luster bustle. Yet she was. Her name is Jill.

As an older women traveling with my husband, you feel your importance waning. No long svelt and sparkling, your goal is be efficient and stay under the radar of neediness.
Due to the overhead space and seating choices he and I were separated from the start of a almost five hour flight, the 2nd week in December. Oh well, not uncommon for us.

It was truly her smile and pleasant kindness on the fourth Southwest flight and my experience that so caught my attention.  She promised that after the aircraft stabilized she'd bring me my oversized purse from rows back behind me, where she politely had stored it. And she remembered! So I asked her name.

Please know I'm an average traveler, pleasant enough, but prefer not to be overly communicative. If my seat mate wants to, I'll talk, but I typically let it be their choice, I love the quiet and rest.

Here was Jill again, the countenance delight, repeatedly honoring my requests. My seat mate never spoke more than a few words to her or I, having a spare seat between us. So I took notice of her working from my seat, greeting passengers as if we were all important persons, and I found myself reflecting on the previous 3 experiences this week.

I'm old enough to remember when being a "steward/stewardess" meant something special. Sweet Jill seemed to get that old style service. It was nice, with warmth, and sincere. Her beverage service and 'snack' passing, was more in the "old tradition", and not just a job, and I reminisced on my initial flight over 50 years ago.

Jill even brought that on, calling me "young lady" once,  and causing me to reflect on kinder days when people looked you in the eyes and cared.

Thank you Jill! GREAT JOB! And have a Merry Christmas Southwest!

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Good Times from the Grands!

Magic moments are not the way I'd describe these 'incidents' of what I think can not adequately be defined with our limited language. These Fabulously-funny moments (thanks to witty daughters, sons and in-laws), never written and are now but remembered in a blurred feeling of delight coupled with Joy.
Here are some recent example of what I mean.

I don't want to lose these recent ones.... hence....Blog...
Please feel free to add some of yours in the comments!

I have lately began to collect these and hope you'll find a better "name" for what I think are very memorable occurance's. Laughable? Yes! But something else as well. So many of these have occurred over the years, but since I'm forgetting more these days I decided to write the latest ones to 'Preserve' them.

When I went to L.A. to be with Lisa, Dave, and Isla and get to know Forrest. I had so much fun. It was good for me in many ways, waking up in Isla's room, she never quite got over my intruding, though I tried hard. Forrest and I had some special moments. Besides helping in all ways I could think of, including trying new recipes, (thanks Lisa) odd jobs, and staying around so you'd get some freedom out and away. Memories of two silly things are still my highlights from the trip.

First, one night when Dave came home, Isla was watching a movie with me and pretty much having an ignore me/us moment. Dave kept talking to her and she continued to ignore us both while she layed on the outer edge of the couch.. As she ignored, he'd pester her to pay attention, or listen by bumping her body which was very close to falling off. Finally as the last straw, he gently bumped her off the edge. But the Joke was on us. After a fall of about 10 inches she layed perfectly still, not moving a particle of her body as if she had died! Totally surprised by her inaction, he ruffled at her  "parlyized corpse" with his foot, but nothing, she layed totally lifeless. We cracked up as she continued the drama,  far beyond reason for effect, it was one of the funniest moments from a two year old I can recall.

My second best memory of the trip was her pouting and ignoring us as we tried to get her to come out of her trance watching TV.  I started to dance using my arms and legs in place and sing "The Merry Little Working Song" from Enchanted, she glanced toward me and without taking another breath she suddenly let out a very-long piercing scream, reminiscent of torture, shocking us, so much we became hysterical once again at her skill-set of drama.

Two recent ones that come to the forefront of fun making was talking with the girls from Millville about their impending "American Girl Party", though not really in the conversation, grandpa started to sing a made up song to fit in. The lyrics were very impromptu, but cracked the girls and I up the rest of their visit. In fact we practiced them, so we wouldn't forget.

She's an American Girl, she's an American girl,
She's coming to your Town, she's gonna burn it down,
She's an American girl.

The girls and I laughed to think he would sing that about their sweet dolls, it really was funny!

Sweet Zona, from Taiwan, was here for the last time before flying home. Now embraced as family practically,  Steff wanted her to get to see our "young" family and we worked hard to find one particular bad boy photo of Jim. Finally we found some early pictures of me, and Jim's favorite. (The one he still carries in his wallet) After the girls seeing quick flashes through the hunting process,  and giving up, we slowed now on this one of me as they gathered round. Evelyn summed it up by smiling and remarking, "Oh..., and there's something about you/it that's just a little bit like Miss Piggy". For day's I've enjoyed  laughing such an honest impression. 


 

Sunday, September 4, 2016

All Things Bright And Beautiful

"All things Bright and Beautiful" are the words that came to me concerning my spiritual feast in August.
I have feasted, yet again, at the experience of Education Week.
I had not availed myself of this opportunity for a couple of years. But plans to attend were planted in my heart early speaking with darling Sharlene, and then I mentally began "gave space" for attending , so when Gay called inviting me, it helped me exercise 'a particle of Faith',  believing that if I ventured the way would be opened. And it was!  The power and love of Heavenly Father fed me and reminded me I am of worth, infinite worth. A much needed lesson He granted me.

I had a great week, spiritual beyond any expectation, and filling, even to overflowing. (That sounds better than, I'm stuffed.)

On an evening while there I was able to visit with Joel,  I committed to him I would write on my blog the many "Questions" presented and posed during the week, using that socratic style that the Church is encouraging. His support for my posting was encouraged, and since we'd do practically anything for our kids.... here goes.

In the words of Brother Kevin J. Worthen, and by recording these here, it is my wish me and any reader will 'counsel' as in "take" these in, and 'counsel with', as in "receive" our individual 'whisperings' from the Lord in the what and how.  Thus attending growth toward ultimate redemption!

All readers here are invited to also; watch, read, study, seek and 'receive counsel' from whatever source as needed in answering.

Take pencil in hand and begin..... (one a week might be nice)

NOTE: These Questions appear in no specific order, only how they were found in my notes.) 
  1. What is it that I have come here to change? 
  2. Do my daily routines reflect what I claim to value?
  3. Am I wearing my busy-ness as a badge of honor?
  4. What are the 'good works' I am abounding in so that Christ can seal me His?
  5. What leisurely activity can I replace with Temple service?
  6. Am I preparing for the sacrament? How can I improve my worship?
  7. What will I eliminate or alter?
  8. How will it be different next week?
  9. Can I identify negative behaviors I ritualize?
  10. How can I repent and overcome these?
  11. Identify how Satan works on me specifically.
  12. Help me to visualize myself in the way I want to be.
  13. How do we go to Gethsemane with our children?
  14. Do I believe that He invites us to come to Him there and he will meet us?
  15. How do we ritualize coming to Christ?
  16. Do I really want to come?
  17. What lies have I chosen to believe?
  18. Do I have a lie I feed and nurture? What is the pay-off for believing the lie?
  19. What are my weaknesses, and am I humble enough to make them strong?
  20. Have I trained others to accommodate my poor behaviors?
  21. How will Jesus help me feel I am enough?
  22. How does the Atonement help with feelings of inadequacy?
  23. What do I value and what does that look like?
  24. Are my behaviors consistent with what I claim I value?
  25. Will you help me to more fully live the Plan today?
  26. And what will that look like?
  27. Is there something I need to alter?
  28. How do we keep moving forward?
  29. Is there more I should know?
  30. Will I look inside and ask myself: What can I do to improve?
  31. Does Nephi really believe all he says?
  32. What will people see in us that is "distinct and different in happy ways"?
  33. Are we trying to keep up to "how everyone is looking"?
  34. What is the motive, and are we feeding each other a lie?
  35. Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I was is the Lord's presence?
  36. Do I spend some time everyday with the scriptures?
  37. Am I practicing the above as a divine directive, not just a nice 'to do'?
  38. Take an accountability of how I trust?
  39. What am I doing to grow my testimony?
  40. Do I expect my spouse to meet all of my emotional needs?
  41. Can I think of a time when I showed patience?
  42. Do I know my triggers? 
  43. Can learn to, and be "mindful", so I can discourage my triggers?
  44. Which commandment am I struggling with? Why is that?
  45. Do I remember 'The Fall' was enormous, that 'we put aside crowns and robes' to come here?
  46. Have I acknowledged parenting has given me front row seats to my own immaturity? And what is my commitment to change?
  47. What did righteous Alma do for his son?
  48. Have I recognized yet that having patience heals souls and unlocks treasures?
  49. What would I like to be an expert in?
  50. What are we selectively choosing to "not look at" in the Gospel, "because of the easiness of the way"?
  51. Do I know how to sanctify myself? When will I start?
  52. Will I maintain hope and remember it is never too late?
I was reminded God works with us in 'our process'... So it is with certainty He will bring me home, if I but do my part.
It is my prayer that I can answer and hearken to these great questions of the inspired instructors.

May we all yield our hearts to God, and allow others in our path to help us do so.

Sunday, September 27, 2015

Coming and Going

We had the lovely and surprising event of sharing our basement with Jake's family. It lasted a while and we enjoyed it. We still miss them and the kids. They helped us, and we helped them and it was something we never could have pictured enjoying as much as we did.

They were blessed with finding a home up the hill and we don't have them in our lives nearly often enough now.

Mark and Dana came once from Hawaii, with their 2 week old Ellie (Eleanor Mei). They job hunted and moved on to join Dave and Joel in CA. La Habra was their home until they were enticed back to Utah for a different job. Since then they added Soapie (Sophie Marie) who turned 1 on June 14th. Now in November they'll add "Audrey" or so they call her so far.....

Chris moved home in December 2014 and fell in love and married in August vacating the balcony room just in time for Cecily and Spencer (Shumway) to take up the room and the slack. We're so glad they're back for a bit. We never get to Provo enough to see them! Now thanks to a job near the "U" and student teaching in West Jordan we get them here!

We are blessed and thrilled with the comings and goings. We have enough and to spare, and hope to share the blessings when we can.

Kai and many his family were here over the summer dancing Ballet for summer camps. Uncle Bruce and Sara visited, and she even grabbed a couple of nights this weekend.

Dana and Mark have had their share of sharing. With family and full of friends and surprises.

I love the ability to open our home those those we can aid and it never ceases to bless us.